Whenever we counsel, we are always looking for the “drivers” that are causing problems in our behavior and in our relationships. As we shared in a previous video, one of the most powerful drivers is “lie-based, toxic shame.” In this first video clip below, Jerry shares examples of how these drivers manifested in his life.
In the second video clip, Denise shares the importance of foundational trust in our development and how a breach in this area can negatively affect us years later. As you will hear, when dysfunctional behaviors and patterns of relating appear due to broken trust and other childhood wounds, we are often clueless as to why. It is at these times that we eventually begin to believe a lie that says, “That’s just the way I am.”
Click on the videos below to view these two clips: