"Hiding from Love"
We remember asking a client to tell us which defense mechanisms he used in his life. All of a sudden, he started singing the lyrics to...
"Why Do I Try to Make Everyone Happy?"
In dysfunctional homes, children develop certain “roles.” The five classic roles that are most commonly referenced are the enabler, the...
"Storms"
We all experience storms in our lives—storms that are unexpected, damaging, out of our control, costly. As we recently watched the fury...
"What in the World Drives My Actions?"
Whenever we counsel, we are always looking for the “drivers” that are causing problems in our behavior and in our relationships. As we...
"I Don't Think I Have Toxic Shame... or Do I?"
When we counsel individuals and couples, we look for the "drivers"--those things that are underneath the behaviors that cause the...
"Childhood Wounds Matter" and "Guilt vs Shame"
Here are two new 1-4 minute video clips taken from a seminar we conducted in Sanibel, Florida on The Missing Commandment: Love Yourself....
