

"You're Just Like Your Father"
Whether we like it or not, the wounds from our parents direct future patterns and ways we relate to others, especially in our closest relationships. All of us grew up in homes with varying degrees of dysfunction. We have breaches, holes, and wounds in our hearts that we received from caregivers. Wounds from things that should not have occurred when we were children, and wounds from the lack of things we needed that we did not get. Some of these broken places have been passed


"Letter to Little Me"
If you want to forgive, love, and accept others, then you must be willing to forgive, love, and accept yourself. Recently, a young woman we were counseling wrote a letter of acceptance to her younger self—a little girl who was rejected by her parents and sexually abused by her brother. Maybe after you read her letter, you can ask the Father if there are any parts of yourself that you are not loving. Maybe it's time for all the children inside to come home and be one. Dear lit


"Because of You"
This is a very powerful teaching that should not be missed. We asked a client who had been abused as a child to personalize the lyrics from “Because of You” by Kelly Clarkson. What she wrote is raw and hopeful at the same time. Note: We have also included links here to the music video, song lyrics, and “Letters from an Abused Daughter.” When you read the lyrics, think about all the walls, defenses, lies, and vows this little girl put up to protect herself from pain . . . and


"Am I Trusting in Me or You?"
Jerry and I normally pray God’s armor of defense and protection around us every day (see Eph. 6:10-17). Now here is where it may get tricky. What if when we pray we think we are putting God’s armor directly on us, when in fact we are placing it on top of our own self-protective shields? Check out the video clip below, and when you are ready, pray the following prayer: “Father, I need your help. I know I have developed ways to protect myself from pain, especially pain that sta


"Do You Do This?"
Our walls of protection that we learned growing up place our trust in our own power rather than in God to be our defense, our protection, and our strength. These self-built walls become fortified over the years and result in our hearts growing hardened or detached from God. The Lord asks us to love him with all of our heart (Luke 10:27). But we cannot fully give to him and receive from him until we allow him to take down our walls. Sometimes, emotions can turn into strong def